Finding your Tribe

Perched over a snowy path, sitting in the Sierra-at-Tahoe Java Junction café, catching up on my Money Mindset Academy class, the air is crisp with sugar and fried foods. Walking through all consuming crowds at the Santa Cruz Boardwalk come to mind – hot chocolate, fritters, donuts, ice cream, French fries. All things sweet and crispy. To be honest, it’s a little distracting, and nauseating.

Similar to how I’m submitting myself to the sweet aroma and icy wonderland view, I’ve been thinking a lot about my tribe, the people I surround myself. These people I submit myself to, ultimately help to create my perspective, my thoughts, my aspirations, my life.

Jim Rohn says we are, "the average of the five people we spend the most time with."

Aside from my very engineering minded co-workers I spend 8 hours with, and my very young children, who are these people? Parents, cousins, siblings, friends, books, podcasts, and TV shows.

I love these people, yet I feel I’ve stagnated in having the support to challenge me. To have people understand me, really know me, and my dreams. To be part of something bigger than what I am, what I’m doing right now.

Personally, I want to surround myself with people who are building schools, who are creating change in their community, who are using their God-given gifts to show the world their superpowers, who are loving life, making money, and sharing love and truth.

Currently I get super pumped listening to podcasts and reading books. When the hour is up or the last page turned, I get a little sad. If only I could call these people up, like an old friend, and simply hang out, letting conversations organically flow about life and growth, and about getting old, and everything in between.

Who do you surround yourself with? Are they in line with where you want to go, or are they keeping you safe and comfortable? We only have 24 hours in a day, how are you spending them, and with whom?

I’m not going to throw away my family and friends, but I can be more selective with who I allow into my space and brain.

With that being said, I jumped at the opportunity to embrace the chaos of Taco Tuesday this past week with a total of 6 kids (4 being boys). A last minute dinner text from my dear friend of nearly 30 years resulted in us combining forces when it came to pulling dinner together. Kids were clinging, screaming, and running in circles. There was homework resistance, there were rumbling bellies, and some were hanging on the precipice of hangry, but we made it and enjoyed it.

Truth be told, being a single mom is quite lonely most of the time, but I find dinner time to be the worst. At the end of the day, with little to give, or little energy to push through to engage and teach the littles, talking to another adult, let alone be part of a team to pull it off, was exactly what I needed.

Having a tribe to lean on, grow with, be challenged by, and just eat tacos with, is where it’s at.

Do yourself a favor and evaluate your tribe. I hope you can feel they are elevating you to be your best, or better yet, better than ever before. Better than you've ever imagined.

And in the words of Judah and the Lion, “Hey, my life is real great, feel I'm well on my way to my dreams coming true, and I'm getting to do it with you"

In case you need some inspo for your own Taco Tuesday fiasco fun night, here is my favorite recipe:

Ingredients

  • 1 pound ground meat of choice, I prefer organic, grass-fed beef for these tacos

  • ½ onion, diced

  • 2 tbsp chili powder (more if want spice, less for less heat)

  • 1/2 tsp. garlic powder

  • 1/2 tsp. onion powder

  • 1/4 tsp. crushed red pepper flakes

  • 1 tsp. dried oregano

  • 1 Tbsp. ground cumin

  • 1 Tbsp. salt

  • 1/2 Tbsp. black pepper

    Directions

  1. Over medium heat, place a pat of butter or coconut oil in pan, preferably cast iron pan

  2. Add onions to the pan and sauté (approx. 10 minutes).

  3. Add ground beef to the onions and sauté, stirring and breaking up the beef (approx. 15 minutes).

  4. Combine spices and add to beef for the final few minutes, and the beef is completely cooked.

  5. Create your tacos using romaine leaves, or my favorite siete tortillas. Top with tomatoes, avocado or guacamole, cilantro, a squeeze of lime and cheese (optional).

Fill those bellies, laugh hard, and love harder. Cheers, friends!