peace and joy



That was my theme for 2017.

I embraced freedom by letting go of a lot of shit that was holding me back. I took hold of the uncomfortable and put myself out there. I’ve been brave. I’ve been scared. I’ve been nervous. I’ve been disappointed when my expectations looked different than my reality.

I faced a lot of fears, stepped out of my comfort zones, and took an extra bite of courage to do things I never thought I'd do.

From business goals to flops. From relationship giddiness to sadness. I’m proud of myself for accepting the challenge to dream and grow; to let freedom provide the space and grace to show me the way.

Despite the ups and downs, and constant noise, there’s been a lot of knowledge that has seeped into these bones and grey matter. There’s been a lot of growth. And for that, I’m grateful.

The crazy thing about this journey of life, is that as much as we may want others to hold us accountable, offer encouragement, or even do some of the work, it all comes down to one thing:


You, me, we are 100% responsible for not only the outcome, but the process. What kind of effort are we putting in? How are we showing up every day? Are you walking in integrity even if you lose?

You can respond like my 6-year old does after I tell her to do something, with, “I forgot!” But let’s be honest, the response, the procrastination, the dilly-dallying you (and I) do is really just fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, fear of disappointment. When you set a goal, or there is risk involved in your decision, it’s only natural to have those emotions. But that’s where the magic happens. That’s when you learn about how powerful you are, your values and character, and how you have the choice to embrace the opportunity to fly or stay still.


I’m no superwoman. It certainly wasn't all rainbows and butterflies. 

Despite the growth and excitement, there have been polar opposites. There have been hardships. Potential clients and business relationships went cold. I’ve let people down. I’ve let things remain unsaid. I’ve held back. I’ve let fear build a wall, keeping others out. Phone tag with "big guy" went silent. I’ve completely spaced on Christmas gifts and arrived to the party flustered and empty handed. Heck, I even forgot deodorant once, on the hottest day of the year. Yikes!

Don’t forget, we’re human. We have ample daily opportunities to remember this point. We’re not perfect and most definitely still a work in progress. Whether you're looking to lose weight, learn how to cook, travel more, pursue a new relationship, quit your job, tuck these little truths in the back of your mind as you live with intention:

  • Ask questions to understand.
  • Don’t assume.
  • Live in the now.
  • Let go of your past.
  • Pursue growth.
  • Don't lose sight of hope.
  • Keep the faith.
  • Read. Read. Read.
  • Forgive and offer grace.
  • Keep it simple.
  • It's starts with you.
  • Love.

I’ve heard it time and time again, 2017 was the fastest year ever. In 365 days we may be saying the same thing about 2018. However, what resolutions and actionable baby steps are you dreaming up to make 2018 a different game than 2017? What is your picture of you thriving?

I'm working up a few goals based on my values, but my overall theme for 2018:

Peace and Joy

Whatever may come, I want to receive as a gift and be at peace with myself, the process, and the outcome. Hopefully I can also spread some joy along the way as well.

Shine bright friends, it's contagious!

Happy New Year!



BLACK FRIDAY - what's your game?

First and foremost, I think Black Friday is silly... and genius, as long as you’re smart about it.

After a day of thanksgiving, gratitude, family, friends, consumption of some of the best things, including delicious food, we completely do a 180 and spend copious amounts of money we don’t necessarily have to spend. Yes, there are some fantastic deals, but you don’t need to consume just because everyone else is doing it. But be true to you, that’s all I ask! If you plan on perusing some deals, I’ll hook you up below – and no need to leave your pj’s and house.

I’m not sure where you live, but it’s sunny and mild here. I’m planning to head out for a run around the Lafayette reservoir here shortly, after I drink my bone broth. My belly is not happy with me today, despite eating clean yesterday. Yep, I still got issues to sort through myself! How will you embrace the day? I hope it involves getting outside in nature, spending more time with people you love, and of course enjoying those leftovers. And perhaps some shopping!

So like I said, and rather contradictory of my first thoughts, if you are going to imbibe in the weekend spending events, here are my top recommendations. NOW is truly the time to try out those brands you’ve been eyeing! Not to mention support many of which are small businesses, including myself!




The Deals for Friday (stay tuned for deals throughout the weekend!):

How to: simply click any link in this post or HERE to shop!

Gift ideas:



The Deal for Friday: Enjoy 25% off of everything

How to: simply click HERE to shop!

Gift ideas:

  • Calming Body Butta (love using this lotion on my daughters after a bath)
  • Baby Butta (clean and unscented for the precious babes in your family )
  • Stank Stop (looking for a safe and effective deodorant, this is it!)



Kasandrinos Olive Oil

The Deal: 25%-off your order!

  • How to: Simply click HERE to shop and use code “bf25” at checkout. On SATURDAY, use code “sb25” and on MONDAY use code “cm25”

This is the best olive oil you can find and they're an awesome GREEK family, of course ; )




The Deal: One free pouch of Strawberry Coconut Cups with purchase

How to: Simply click above and use my code: erinhtmt


Foursigmatic Mushroom Coffee and Elixirs

The Deal: 15%-50% off of the top products

How to: simply click here or one of the links below

Gift ideas:




Not affiliated whatsoever but love these shoes for my girls!

The deal: Select styles 40-60% off

How to: click here.



Health coaching with me!

The deal: 20% off my health coaching services

If you’re looking to confront some of your health issues – need to clean up your diet, address allergies, tackle a meal plan, try a 21-day sugar detox. I’ve got you covered!

How to: Email me at or fill out the form on my website!

werking, goals, and pieces of me

Winter fruit at it's finest. Pomegranates are so purty!

Winter fruit at it's finest. Pomegranates are so purty!

It’s the eve of Thanksgiving.

My house is halfway ready for the breakfast I’m hosting tomorrow. The table is set, the carne vinho d’alhos (Portuguese style meat) has been marinating since Monday evening, the potatoes are out, ready to be chopped in the morning, and my sister is planning on bringing the gin! Yet the vacuum sits in the hallway, laundry is strewn on the couch waiting to be folded, and the side project of fixing our TV has remnants of technology littering the living room floor.

I also forgot about the email I received at 3pm to rearrange a qualifications package for work.

I recently read in Gretchen Rubin’s, Better than Before, “It’s a Secret of Adulthood: Working is one of the most dangerous forms of procrastination.”

I’m an expert at “working” and doing everything else that needs to be done, aside from the most important task of the day. Side note: if you want a really clean house, start a fight with me. Being productive by cleaning is my natural reaction to get my mind off of the conflict. Ha!

But back to the point. This is my real life. Authentically me. Virtually I’m able to share my life with you, in pieces. Bit by bit, I hope I’m able to share pieces of myself that you’re able to fit together to get the entire picture.

Here’s a few random notes about me:

  • I consume music - all genres. I kind of wish I had a soundtrack for my life. Ed Sheeran, Lauv, and the James Arthur Pandora station is my jam right now.

  • I love to travel and sadly don’t get to go on as many adventures anymore. I plan on changing that soon.

  • I’m a foodie. While I love to eat out to avoid cleaning up, I’d much rather cook my own food. Unless you’re taking me out to sushi,  French Laundry, or Kokkari.

  • I’m passionate about helping others find what stirs their hearts. Yet I also want to encourage others to feel good in their skin, which usually starts with nutrition and mindset.

  • Being a mother of two daughters is HARD. But my babies are my inspiration to create a sustaining business to have a flexible schedule so that I can be there for them when they have field trips, parent-teacher conferences, mid-day parties, the stomach bug, and to pick them up at a decent hour. Ultimately this boils down to stress less and remove myself from the rat race of commuting, eight hours behind a screen, and too few hours with the most important people in my life. Goals.

That being said, if you haven’t been following for long, you may not know what I stand for. Above all, I want to help you thrive by helping you decipher the ever-changing nutritional landscape and simplifying meals, provide solutions for cleaning up your environment through education like discovering the EWG, as well as your personal care products. Beautycounter being one of my favorite ways to clean up what I put on my skin.

We all know we should eat better but it’s rare we pay attention to what we PUT ON our skin, dismissing the fact that our skin is our largest organ and literally soaks up everything we use – toothpaste, shampoo, shaving cream, lotion, lipstick, chapstick, mascara, and so on.

I not only love Beautycounter for their safer, high-performing products, but also the fact that they walk the talk and are physically fighting for change at a legislative level, demanding change industry wide. They don’t have to do that, but they are, making it a level playing field for everyone, asking for transparency so that we can decide for ourselves what we want to consume – what we want to expose ourselves and our children to. Without transparency, we blindly put toxins in and on our bodies, wondering why cancer and disease has increased in the last 50 years. We have a right to know and make educated decisions for ourselves.

I could go on and on, but before you judge me or your Beautycounter consultant, read this article or this one, or this one; watch this video!

If you want to know more, reach out. I’m happy to answer questions and share some of my favorite products.

Or heck, give them a try this Black Friday through Cyber Monday! There will be some amazing deals!

Quickly becoming a favorite! The Countermatch line is impressive!

Quickly becoming a favorite! The Countermatch line is impressive!

Now let’s be thankful, grateful, and present these next few days with family and friends. Enjoy your turkey, stuffing, and pie : )

Grateful for you friends!



Giving Willy Wonka a run for his money

Before I was 30.

Before I was a mom.

Before I was a health coach and foodie.

Before Beautycounter.

Before I was grinding for a paycheck.

I was game for any and every adventure. College days, disposable income, and no real ties allowed me the space to do so, but sometimes that pang to go be free, gives me a poke.

These days I may have to forego midnight drives to Joshua Tree, day trips to Big Bear, jaunts in a PNW rainforest, and international solo birthday trips, but I believe we all need some fun and adventure in our lives. Consider it another pillar of your health and wellness journey.

Enter the Color Factory, a creation by Oh Happy Day and her favorite artists and collaborators. Oh Happy Day, brings color, life and joy to basically anything and everything. They are the epitome of parties and have your back if you need a pop of color and a smile in your life.

But back to our San Francisco adventure….

We – me, Charlie Bear, and Samurai – played hooky from school and work to enjoy each other and have some fun in the city. We grabbed BART, sipped our foursigmatic hot cacao, and braced ourselves for our big adventure.

The Color Factory is hard to explain, so I didn’t bother telling the girls where we were going, other than our only objective was to have fun together. Suffice to say, besides waiting in line to enter, they greatly enjoyed themselves.

When you first enter the building, you are directed down the magical rainbow staircase. The suspense continues as you wait again to show your tickets, to the friendly Color Factory attendee – picture your own version of an oompa loompa here. As we wait, this time because I can’t find the ticket I literally just had on my phone, the aromatic scratch n’ sniff wall is within sight and the anticipation continues to build.


Finally! We’re in.

A great feature of the visit are the handy dandy cards you receive with an individual barcode that allows you take your picture with one of the strategically located cameras. 5,4,3,2,1, and you instantly receive the result in an email.

We got our card and began our journey sniffing the wall of memories: Green grass, Laundry hanging in the sun to dry, a root beer float with two straws, stop and smell the roses. So creative and fun!

Inundated with scents, we moved on to our complimentary marshmallows! I have to say the mint chip one was the best and I’m not even a marshmallow fan.

Satisfied we continued on to the black and white striped kitchen to try activated charcoal lemonade. Interesting, but no need to linger.

Next, the orange room. It was lost on the girls but I felt like I had returned to the 80’s with all sorts orange of trinkets and delights. Most specifically, the orange Neutrogena soap. Totally used that back in the day!

Followed by the blue room, filled with blue balloons.

Michael Jackson tunes and a disco ball beckoned us from the blue room and we ventured to get our dance party on. Being living room dance party connoisseurs, we were killing it, but the Light Bright Room – a massive, life size light bright – was too intriguing, so we killed the tunes and went onward.

As an 80’s child, light bright was one of the main items I coveted when I went to a friend’s home. This was everything my 6-year old heart ever wanted – and obviously my 6-year old was loving every second of it, until her 4-year old sister stole the color peg she wanted.

Moving on, we crossed the hall to find two of the largest markers I’ve ever seen and an oompa loompa breaking down the rules of the room: color the walls as you please, no graffiti or words, and don’t color on the floor. Have at it kids!

Wearing out their wee arm muscles, we moved on to find 10,000 colored ribbons to touch, run through, get lost in and laugh vigorously. But a few run-throughs and belly laughs were enough. We found our way upstairs. The confetti room may have been my favorite. Though simple, this room was pure delight. Confetti angels on the floor, confetti fights, laughter and pure joy.

From there, we ended our journey literally sinking into the giant yellow room’s ball pit. With clever puns and jokes on the walls, we worked ourselves around the pit, from corner to corner, trying not to lose each other. It was a deceptively hard trek through the pit, making the soft serve treat at the opposite side an even sweeter reward.

What I loved:

  • Everything. You don’t experience these diverse eye-catching, colorful arrangements in your everyday life.
  • The tactile nature of each and every little thing. How often can you go somewhere and say, “Touch everything!”
  • The creativity and detail put into the complete exhibit, allowing all ages to have fun

Whether or not you make it to the Color Factory, I hope you fill your days with love, laughter, and adventure!

Coco for coconut

Right before it became pumpkin spice coconut butter!

Right before it became pumpkin spice coconut butter!

Back in the day when I used to shop at Costco, the bi-weekly staples were bacon, meat, fish, veggies, fruit, a huge ass jar of coconut oil, and bags upon bags of nuts – almonds, walnuts, and pecans. On special occasions I’d splurge for macadamia nuts and proceed to nosh on them on the ride home to appease my traffic woes through downtown Seattle.

The superfluous amount of nuts was a two-fold dilemma: 1) our favorite chocolate chip cookie used solely nuts as the base instead of flour, and 2) being a SAHM, I basically survived off of nuts, smoothies, and the leftover bites on itty bitty plastic plates (yep, I know, disgusting).

Then one day it happened. I had hit my quota and my body purely rejected nuts.

If I feel like getting a headache, having my stomach distend as if I was 7 months pregnant, and have gut issues for a few days, I may partake in a nut. But let’s be honest, it’s not a nice predicament to willingly put myself in.

I say all of this because perhaps you have mild symptoms of eating too many nuts also. They’re
delicious, full of healthy fats and vitamins, and an amazingly easy snack to consume. But let’s face it, it’s easy to overdo it. I only say this so that you’ll pay attention the next time you reach for a nut. Stop and see how your body truly feels when you eat them. If you think you may want to eliminate your handful of almonds (like every health magazine has told you to eat at 3pm), you may want to turn to another lovely fatty friend and my favorite nut replacement - coconut.

Fun fact, coconut is not a nut. I repeat, it’s not a nut! It’s in fact, a fruit.

Back to the story - not knowing how I’d replace my beloved nut fetish, I quickly discovered my love for coconut butter. Okay, okay, I guess I did have an adjustment period, and it did take some time to acquire a taste for it. But once that all fell into place, there wasn’t a week that went by where I didn’t make my own coconut butter and have fun with different flavors.

A spoonful here and a spoonful there, and I barely missed my crunchy nutty friends.

Now that I’m working again and eating real food throughout the day, I don’t make it as often anymore. Which, when I think about it, is such an oxymoron. These days I have less time yet I meal plan and therefore have a stocked fridge. Unless of course you come over on a weekend and I haven’t gone grocery shopping.

Anyway, when I do make coconut butter, it’s usually to make chocolate coconut cups. I love
myself some Eating Evolved coconut cups, yet my budget does not. I can’t just buy one package you know. So I make my own.

When I saw that they had pumpkin coconut cups, I felt up for the challenge.

First things first, I don’t understand the pumpkin spice craze come fall. I do have a soul
and like pumpkin bread but I by no means run out as soon as the first yellow leaf succumbs to the season change and frantically buy every pumpkin spiced item in town. But that’s beside the point. Making your own pumpkin coconut butter may just be the easiest thing in the world. Making the chocolate pumpkin cups on the other hand, can be quite the feat. Not hard, but difficult for this impatient heart of mine.

Are you ready? Here's what you do:

  • Grab a bag of shredded coconut.
  • Fill food processor - nearly to the brim
  • Blend until smooth – 5-10 minutes
Get yo'self some shredded coconut. Trader Joe's has the best deal!

Get yo'self some shredded coconut. Trader Joe's has the best deal!

Throw a pinch of sea salt in there and let it whirl!

Throw a pinch of sea salt in there and let it whirl!

You can proceed from there and add fun things such as:

  • Salt
  • Vanilla
  • Dehydrated fruit – strawberries are a favorite
  • Cacao powder
  • pumpkin spice

From there, drizzle it on everything, replace your mid-afternoon snack attack with a
spoonful, or try one of these recipes:

  • Warm coconut butter on a freshly roasted sweet potato with cinnamon. Yes please!
  • PaleOMG’s apple pie bites. Hot damn!
  • Make mint chocolate coconut cups. Mmmmm.
  • Drizzle over berries or coconut oil sauteed apples. Sure thing!
  • Add 1-2 tbsp and blend into your favorite morning drink. Bring it!

Do note, unless it’s summer or you live in a sauna, coconut butter will harden.

If you don’t want to do any of that, try Eating Evolved and use my code (ERINHTMT) for a special treat when you place an order.

What else do you do with coconut butter??

Why soups and smoothies should be on the menu year round!

In the past couple of weeks, we’ve had some interesting weather around these parts of California. It’s gone from blistery heat to cool to humid, thunderstorms, back to heat. As follows, I’ve gone from shorts and flip flops to fall sweaters to boots and back to tank tops. Fall is in the air, but summer is still hanging on. Regardless of which way the weather chooses to swing, there will always be ingredients in my fridge and pantry to make soup and smoothies.


Depending on your needs, soups are a great way to either load up on or hide veggies. Soup appears quite often on our table due to the one fact that I weekly roast a whole chicken. The meat goes into various dinners and lunches throughout the week, while the bones get chucked into the pressure cooker to make stock. Meal prep at its finest - no bone left behind! Despite fond memories of sipping piping hot carrot ginger soup on a cold winter's day in New York when I was 20, and the fact it's the wee Samurai's favorite, we've been branching out from out typical carrot ginger and discovered we really enjoy a twist on Nom Nom Paleo's Pork and Napa Cabbage Soup with a side salad for dinner. 

Do you have a favorite soup, or one that evokes memories? Next on my soup repertoire is to master my late Portuguese grandma’s egg soup. It may not sound delicious but this soup, filled with thyme and garlic (I can’t think of any Portuguese dish without garlic!), perfectly defines my childhood sitting at her counter slurping up the noodles and eggs in petite blue bowls. Pink rice was another of our frequently requested grandma dishes, but I’ll save that for another time.


Similar to soup, smoothies are another amazing vehicle to hide those veggies. When time permits before we race off to school, I love to make smoothies to get veggies and some good fats into the little people’s bellies. Not only can I get some nutrients in them but I also cross my fingers it will ward off the corncake, cereal, and cracker snacks at school. While I can’t recall there ever being a time these girls of mine agreed on the same thing, they will usually acquiesce to one or the others preference by the second time I ask: fruity or chocolatey? Today, we went the chocolatey route.

Chicken and Cabbage soup

cabbage soup

So tasty, even staring at a computer screen at work for a late breakfast! Just don't spill it in your car. Not only does the turmeric leave a lovely yellow stain, cabbage left to bake in a warm car all day does not have the most pleasant smell. Or so I hear! 

This soup is also 21-Day Sugar Detox freindly! 


  • 1 teaspoon ghee or fat of choice
  • 1 small onion, diced
  • shredded chicken (I used what was left from roasting a whole chicken) 
  • 6 mushrooms, thinly sliced 
  • 2 garlic cloves, minced
  • 6 cups bone broth or homemade stock (after roasting a whole chicken, I prep broth in the pressure cooker over night)
  • 1 head cabbage (2 pounds), cut crosswise into 1-inch segments
  • 2 large carrots, peeled and sliced
  • 2 celery stalks, sliced
  • 1 large hannah (white fleshed) sweet potato, peeled and cut into 1-inch cubes
  • Freshly ground black pepper and salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon of cinnamon and turmeric
  • scallions


  1. In pressure cooker, heat the ghee or fat of choice on the saute. When the fat is warm, begin to saute the diced onion with a pinch of salt. Saute until soft.
  2. Add Mushrooms and continue to saute until soft.
  3. Add remaining ingredients except for broth and chicken. Mix together.
  4. Add in broth, put lid on and cook under high pressure for 3-5 minutes. Release the pressure manually when the soup is finished cooking.
  5. Once done, add shredded chicken and garnish with more pepper or scallions


Chocolate smoothie

Chocolate smoothie and waffles

A classic and kid favorite anytime of the day! We paired it with waffles for a Saturday morning feast.


Blend until smooth! Easy! 

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Change is hard and typically uncomfortable. Despite really, really wanting a particular outcome, the process can be overwhelming. So we cling to what we know, our habits, even if they're preventing us to reach our goals. It's "safe."

Do you feel that?

Let's talk nutrition for a minute.

What's holding you back from getting off of your meds, or incorporating more veggies into your meals, or losing some weight, or nixing the late night binges? Where are you stuck?

There are a lot of quick tricks and programs, shakes, and fad diets. Are you confused and simply want to throw your hands up in disgust and confusion?

While there may be some unique aspects of your lifestyle we would need to address, with some basic and honest assessment, we can work together to get you on a path toward health.


We don’t need to have superhero powers, but we do need to be the superhero’s of our own lives.

You ARE in more control than you think! Have you forgotten that? I’m here to remind you that you’re not alone in this process, it’s possible to change, and there are people (like me) that would love to walk alongside you!

I began this post thinking I would go in one direction, but hey, the beauty of being the author is that you can change course. And so can you.

I’m not going to dish out all of the reasons the 21-Day Sugar Detox may be good for you. I’m not going to spout off that you’ll more than likely need at least 30 days to get in a good groove. I won’t berate the point that it’s going to take some mindset, and some weekly prep. You may also want to cheat on Day 11. That’s human nature. Reality. And to some degree you most likely know that; that may be why you don’t start.

That’s the beauty of having the accountability of a coach. You have someone to lean on, to reach out to, to vent to. I won’t coddle you and enable the nonsense, but I will lead you. No judgement, only compassion as your cheerleader, wanting to see you succeed.

I know, you probably have a thing, a party, a birthday, a wedding, a trip. Right?! So committing to 21-30 days is rather iffy. But it’s all choices. What will you choose today?

But how? 

Let’s look at your goals, based on the structure of your day: when and what you eat, how much sleep you’re getting, your stress levels, your fears, your exercise. Give me the information and I’ll do all of the heavy lifting to produce a plan. While it will be up to you to follow, like i said before, I will be your cheerleader, and I’m here to change what doesn’t work.

Decide what to be

Based on the heading (can you name that tune?!) of this post and the following line from The Avett Brothers song, "Head full of fear/road full of promise," I’m all about the music these days. However, I thought this song lyric was relevant to close with:


 - Avett Bros

But in all seriousness, I'd love to help you pinpoint the sticky spots and provide you with tools to create new habits. If you have any gentle nudging to make a change, let's talk it out! 


P.S. All of my nutrition clients get extra special goodies from me. But you’ll have to sign-up to find out what they are.

Also, if you want a sneak peek into the food you’ll eat, which is not sad at all, check out my IG as well as the 21-Day Sugar Detox guidebook

Cheers to new beginnings!


It's all grace.


It's easy to blame others.

My computer. My kids. My boss. The other driver. BART delays.

Yet most of the time it's me. Ok, lately it's been been my lame, "vintage" computer that needs some updating. But even that falls back in my lap. I'm the common denominator.

Since early spring, I've been saying I lost my groove after Christmas - 2016. Yet it's still missing, nine months later. While some mighty fine things have come to fruition, I'm still in shock it's already September. Now the pressure is on.

Or is it?

I guess you could say since completing my Precision Nutrition Level 1 Certification in December, I've gone into double-time work mode. Working from 8-5, single parenting, commuting close to 2 hours, cleaning, cooking, working my side gigs at night and on the train. It seemed feasible, until I didn't want to do it anymore. The passion faded.  

I'm far from perfect and recognize my flaws, yet when I've lost myself in the muck and mire of being an adult, clocking in and out of the daily grind, and having minimal fun, I'm not a great coach. When my own health has become a weak bystander, how can I coach others on their healthy habits? When I'm tired and impatient, how can I be the best mom I desire to be? 

No doubt it's a catch-22. I'm working hard to achieve the outcome of defining my own schedule, being my own boss, and ultimately being more available for my daughters. But the process I've created is not sustainable. No one is winning.

 Jim Rohn says we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Hmmmm, okay. Well, I spend 8 hours surrounded by engineers, that I don't necessarily engage with. I live with two irrational, selfish creatures who use incessant tactics to gain my attention. Time with my friends is brief as life beckons and pulls in other directions. So who is shaping my environment, for better or worse?

That being said, I was blessed to spend Labor Day weekend with some really cool people at a mastermind event. For two days I surrounded myself with wicked smart entrepreneurs, and let me tell you, it was not only inspiring but there were definitely game-changing sparks! 

If you know Sean Croxton, you know he dropped some truth bombs about the power of our mind, fear, setting intentions and taking action. If you need daily motivation check out his Quote of the Day show. I promise it will set the tone to have a kick-ass day. 

Dave of PaleoHacks, whipped us into shape when it comes to website basics and blogging.

Ella, from OnairwithElla, talked about Impostor Syndrome, how to crush fear, and how to take action to daily choose and create a life that energizes us. 

Jake Ducey, whom I had first heard on the Sessions, was every bit as hippy as I expected him to be, and it was awesome. Reiterating Ella's discussion, he focused on the PROCESS, the daily steps we need to take in the process to create the outcome we want, without getting hung up on the outcome. Developing a practice of process will get us there.

Getting back to GRACE.

Christine Hassler, who I also first heard on the Sessions, capped our event with some incredible coaching. My time with her, as well as witnessing shifts in others, allowed me to recognize it's ok to take a step back. I had been going, going, going, trying to prove I could do it all. All for what?

People effing love to tell me how amazing I am for doing it all as a single mom. Lead in questions, always start with, "I don't know how you do it, but it seems to be working!"

Actually no, it's not working. It's lonely. It's hard. It's sad a lot of the time. I'm constantly moving money around to pay bills. I don't get as much sleep as I'd like to be a nice person. There may or may not be a pile of laundry on my couch or still in the dryer at all times (is there a service for someone to fold my clothes?). I'm not able to do a lot of things. It's not ideal. I can't really say it's working, but I'm grateful we're functioning and I can provide a roof over my head, and yummy food to eat (most of the time). 

Not that I needed permission, but Christine articulated it for me. It's ok. Perhaps you're burned out and you need to take a step back. Reevaluate this is your time - that you can invest in the process, which is time consuming, all consuming, and sometimes hard. It's ok to wait, there is nothing to prove RIGHT NOW. Don't miss out on the NOW by forcing something else.

And like that, the pressure was off.

I'm not giving up, in fact, more than ever, I'm more excited to work with clients. However, the pressure was released.  

That's good stuff right there! 

As my wonderful friend can attest, as I was texting her up until I walked into the conference room, I was nervous to attend the event. Was it going to be worth it? Did I even belong there? What the hell am I doing? 

In every sense it was worth it. I highly recommend bschool and a mastermind event with Sean and his pals. If for nothing else, to enjoy the bootchcraft and interesting conversations that come after your hard days work absorbing new knowledge. 


So what are you afraid of doing or not doing? What's holding you back of sharing the unique gifts you've been entrusted with? Are you putting too much pressure on yourself? Who is your tribe of 5? I want to know!